After Juliet was born we began looking into international adoption, but had a difficult time finding an ethical and affordable option. Somewhere along the way it was actually Mike who suggested that we consider doing foster care. Meanwhile we gave birth to our second kiddo. When Dean was about 9 months old we submitted our application for foster care to our agency. (Read more about how long the whole process takes to become foster parents.)Honestly we went into it pretty blindly. But I'm a total Type-A personality so it wasn't long before I began reading everything about foster care that I could get my hands on. The more we learned about what foster care really is, how it works, and what our role is as foster parents, the more we felt "called" to do this work.
When we started our training classes, each week we would sit and listen to some of the grim realities of foster care. It would freak us out a bit, but somehow we left class each week feeling more determined than ever to become foster parents. We just knew that this was our path. I felt it in my bones.
Interestingly, what has changed is our plan to adopt. Many people go into foster care with the goal of adoption, so it's often assumed that we intend and hope to adopt. While we won't say never to adoption, our plan for now is to continue fostering without adopting. But it was that original plan to adopt that brought us around to fostering. Life has a funny way of doing that sometimes.